Ladies! Let’s talk🙂

A few nights ago, I had a wonderful conversation with a friend of mine. Definitely we talked about everything from career down to the least which is boys.

But then, a part of the conversation caught my full attention I felt I should share with my readers which was about we women, our dressing, and looks.

So, here we go!

Most times, she(my friend) leaves the house and she sees the dressing of some ladies out there yet we ladies complain about not being able to achieve proper BabyGirl status ok maybe I didn’t write that well yeah! We don’t get addressed the way we want people to address us.

Her point- We want to be seen at a certain level yet we look like 3 levels lower than our present status. An attempt should be made by every lady to dress, smell and look nice. she continues by saying even if you’re not a fan of makeup, you should at least take care of your hair and apply even if it’s white powder and lipgloss not walking about with your face shining like 10packs of Vaseline was poured on it🚶🏽‍♀️.

I added some girls start dressing up when they meet THAT GUY. Furthermore she says ” we look good to feel good not for men to validate that we look good”.

Knowing all this, people will address you better and with respect ,She’s an avid believer of “dress how you want to be addressed”.

ok! I’m running too fast, This was what led to the discussion above

I was gisting her about a situation that occured like two weeks ago and I was in the middle of it.

I was caught up in the middle of a situation when a friend of mine dressed like she struggled with her ancestors before coming to meet some friends and I. As the one who says things as it is, they were expecting me to talk, I was speechless!.So, this person is close to me and no matter how I sugarcoat my words, she will always read meaning into it . So you see!

I just took her inside and politely asked her to change, my madam took offence… I just laughed and said to her “when you’re ready to look like  human being, then you can come out then we move”

Hanty came out and said she’s no longer going anywhere!

Me! I kuku left her and moved! You cannot look like SCREP and follow me SIMPLE!

have you ever been in a situation like this?

How did you handle it?

What are your thoughts on what my friend said?

Please Share your thoughts in the comment section

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xXx………………………Tochi

5 Comments Add yours

  1. fehintolaogunye says:

    I think she’s right. Not every woman wants to wear makeup or hair extensions but you can dress neatly, ensure your hair looks good and look presentable. And not need wanting for a guy to do all that. I remember when I was in Uni, some of my roommates won’t invite me out because they said I didn’t dress up enough. I was like because I don’t wear makeup and heels, na wa o! But that what they tot. So I see her point. Good writing.

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    1. Togger says:

      Sorry about your uni problems❤️
      Thanks for your opinion dear😘

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  2. Sic says:

    They say “Dress how you want to be addressed”, and as cliche as this old quote sounds it remains true. From a guy’s perspective, a woman’s Looks play a huge role on how she’s approached, even before she speaks i/we notice her Dress pattern and charisma. Personally, a conservative outfit with a hint is slutty does it for me for a girl. However in your friends case I think you were a bit too harsh darl, she must’ve gone livid at your tone, a little petting and helping her pick a cloth would be better next time. Nice piece. Greetings

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    1. Togger says:

      Thank you ❤️
      Will apply that next time I find myself in a situation like that 🤗😘

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  3. Sic says:

    They say “Dress how you want to be addressed”, and as cliche as this old quote sounds it remains true. From a guy’s perspective, a woman’s Looks play a huge role on how she’s approached, even before she speaks i/we notice her Dress pattern and charisma. Personally, a conservative outfit with a hint of slutty does it for me for a girl. However in your friends case I think you were a bit too harsh darl, she must’ve gone livid at your tone, a little petting and helping her pick a cloth would be better next time. Nice piece. Greetings

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